Comments on: A Ball of Conflicting Voices

By: Le

Le — Wed, 04 Oct 2006 01:01:10 +0000

I dunno, I always liked Hochgesang better than Guberman.

By: Cloak & Dagger

Cloak & Dagger — Mon, 25 Sep 2006 16:24:23 +0000

Sorry to hear about your divorce, but I think you’re doing the right thing by gaining back your identity - even though you preferred your former spouse’s name. You seem young and I’m sure you will find your next suitor in no time :)

By: julie hochgesang

julie hochgesang — Thu, 21 Sep 2006 21:38:19 +0000

:) Hi Pepe!

By: Pepe C

Pepe C — Thu, 21 Sep 2006 06:24:27 +0000

I always thought of you as Julie Hochgesang from my CSUN days, didn’t even know you had changed your last name when you got married! :) So at least there is one person out there who recognizes you by the Hochgesang name!

By: moi

moi — Thu, 14 Sep 2006 06:52:00 +0000

Whoops - typo. maiden, not mnaiden. *blush*

By: moi

moi — Thu, 14 Sep 2006 06:23:58 +0000

Here’s a thought: why is it the WOMAN that has to make this decision? And why do the children have to have the man’s last name?
I knew one couple where the man actually changed his last name and took her last name when they got married. That was seriously cool.
I don’t see why we women are saddled with this choice, frankly. I’m keeping my last name. I don’t know about my children, but I hope Mr. Omigawd is open to the possibility of their taking my last name, not his. A couple I know just got married after being together for over a decade and they have children together. She took his last name, and I was soooooo disappointed. Just because she has a ring on her finger, her identity changed - when they have been together and functioning as a family for so long with her keeping her mnaiden name???
This may seem radical, but, really, I think both people should consider it and not just assume the men keep their name and the children get his last name. That’s whack.

By: julie hochgesang

julie hochgesang — Wed, 13 Sep 2006 15:06:09 +0000

When it comes to taking another name that isn’t your maiden name or married name, it can become complicated fast, depending on the good humor of the judge you meet.

I understand entirely about people misspelling your name. That’s pretty funny about your dad… “they ran out of ink.” Good attitude.

By: Name

Name — Wed, 13 Sep 2006 14:52:28 +0000

There’s this name trend going on where the mother’s maiden name becomes the middle name for the child so that it’d show the lineage of the mother. With this name arrangement, it won’t be entirely patriarchial. Like if the parents are John Smith and Jane Doe and the kid’s name could be Mary Doe Smith.

By: kaybee

kaybee — Wed, 13 Sep 2006 11:36:27 +0000

that’s correct about today. myself I like my last name and if I have kids, they’ll use the father’s name. after age of 18, up to them. have bigger fish to fry than changing mazagine subscriptions. good luck julie -

By: Katherine

Katherine — Wed, 13 Sep 2006 01:50:12 +0000

True and I agree. However, I am having a second thought about keeping my last name when I get
married one day, probably against my will.

Why? You ask. For as long as I can remember, my last name is often spelled with just one n’s instead of two at the end because of this other more common last name. It is getting tiresome to have to correct different people again and again. My tolerance is none other than zilch!

My dad’s humor did help but not for long. When he was not in a good shape at the hospital on the bed, I saw his last name spelled with one n at the end on his door. I said to him, “Papa, here they go again.” He goes, “No, dear, these people ran out
of ink.” I couldn’t help but laughed out loud.

So, I don’t think I want to deal with it for the rest of my life. I’ll leave it to the whole bunch of men in my family to deal with it ha! Either I take the man’s last name or change my last name
to my mother’s maiden name. As for latter, I don’t know how hard that’ll be to do.