Three years ago, I took the bold step of blogging on the Internet. It was not an easy decision because I was letting strangers into my world. Blogging allowed me to openly talk about dating, television shows, music, movies, friends, life, and frustrations. I felt comfortable putting my thoughts out there and did not worry about people lashing out at me or anyone close to me. There’s no censorship in blogging, I can say whatever I want, whether or not anyone agrees with me. It gave people an insight as to who I am.

I really enjoy blogging. I found people who loved the same television shows and could get their thoughts on the show. I received feedback from people on what I could do with my career. Blogging opened my door to the world a little wider. However, as the years have gone by, as you may have noticed, I’ve blogged less and have become more guarded about what I say. I feel like what I say might come back and bite me in the butt. It sucks that I even feel like this.

Blogging is a whole ‘nother level, it takes a lot of effort for people who are not writers, yet they enjoy writing enough to want to put their words on the screen to let the world read about their thoughts, experiences, and just what they think about life. Sometimes they come back to their blog and find a hasty or brash comment about what they’ve just written.

I religiously read a lot of blogs on a daily basis. Some are written by people that I don’t know, and they have no idea who I am. Yet, I feel some kind of bond because they’re letting me into their world, and giving me the opportunity to snoop into theirs. As time goes by, I’ve noticed these bloggers are writing less. I think it has a lot to do with the comments. When I comment, I try to keep in mind what my mom said to me, “If you can’t say anything nice, then don’t say anything at all.” I’m not going to say that I’ve never said a mean thing about anyone else because I have said crap about some people, some I regret, some I think deserve it, but that’s not the point. What happened to common courtesy?

For instance, there’s a website I check quite religiously that targets women and covers everything from fashion, beauty, health, fitness, dating, relationships, sex, love, everything you can imagine that women want to know about. There was one blog in particular that I started checking every single day because it was about a girl describing what it’s like to jump back in the dating world after breaking up with her long-time love. It was good at first, but then she started writing less and less, simply because people were so judgmental about the choices that she made. Eventually she quit writing, and the website brought on a new blogger.

The new person was a guy blogging about being single, living and teaching in LA while looking for love in all the wrong places. Granted, if you’re a guy writing about your love life and you’re a guy on a woman dominated website, that’s just asking for trouble. There have been some things that he’s said that I don’t agree with, but like I always say, it’s his life, his mistakes, he’ll eventually learn from them. But it’s really mind-blowing as to how far some women on the website go to defame his character. And the only thing I’m thinking when I read some of these harsh comments is, why you are even reading this blog in the first place. I wouldn’t be surprised if he chose to quit blogging soon. Quite honestly, it’s nice to read about a guy’s perspective on dating on a website for women because it gives me a new insight on how a guy might think!

It always comes down to, well, if you don’t like what the person’s writing about, then why are you even reading it in the first place? Really! Why are you even wasting yours and my time writing a comment? I think comments can take the fun out of blogging. How can we keep this from getting out of hand? What happens when this starts affecting people’s lives?


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