Word at work has gotten around that I have tried online dating. It’s funny because a lot of people are skeptical about it. I admit I am at times. Considering I haven’t really done much dating at all in the past few months. I just have issues…but that’s another story
Anyway, so one of the girls “MissPeppy” wanted to know if I could try to find someone that she’s currently dating on the online dating site. I told her that the only way she could do that is by doing a general search, unless you knew his screen name (which is rare).
So she did a general search and actually found him. Now here’s the problem. MissPeppy and this guy have been dating for 3 weeks. On Sunday afternoon, he told her that he only wanted to date her. With that said, MissPeppy thought they were boyfriend and girlfriend. However, she found his profile online, and it said he’d been active within 24 hours.
Not a good thing.
Monday morning, I open my email, and she wants my advice. I don’t exactly have advice for this kind of situation. But she goes to find his profile online and shows it to me…and he’s online right at that moment. MissPeppy isn’t exactly the happiest person on the planet.
This is where it’s confusing. When a guy tells a girl that he only wants to date her, why would he be on a dating site all day checking out other girls’ profiles?
If a guy genuinely likes a girl, or vice versa, they wouldn’t be online checking other people’s profiles. That’s my 2 cents.
What’s the deal, a guy says something, and does completely something different? And she thought he was a genuinely nice guy. She says she’ll ask him straight up what the deal is.
What’s your take on what he said and what he did?
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Buwahaha! Juicy office gossip!
Ok. Just what is wrong with a guy checking out other girls’ profiles? It’s like a husband not being allowed to look at porno. Did he at least change his profile to “in a relationship?”
Yes, it’s a bit unusual, so MissPeppy should call him out on it. My thinking is, MissPeppy misunderstood him. Or he’s regretting his decision to go steady with MissPeppy. Or MissPeppy needs to be a bit less peppy.
this is a common situation with he said and she said. while this particular statement “i want to date only you” seems clear enough, it opens up for different interpretations.
he is probably interested in misspeppy, but hon, they met 3 weeks ago. regardless of what had been said, he’s not going to stop checking out other people’s profiles. at least until he knows for sure he likes misspeppy and that realization isn’t going to come until after several months.
she’s expecting this fella to cheat on her already? tsk. misspeppy should tone down her peppiness and get to know the boy more before declaring her everlasting love. in other words, don’t expect 100% committment from him (or any other guys) until several months later.
or if this guy is truly serious about misspeppy already, maybe he’s checking to see if she’s checking out other boys’ profiles behind his back.
how’s that for irony? *psychiatristic chortle*
Oh my. The guy should definitely be called onto the carpet especially if he led MissPeppy to believe they were somehow past the dating stage and bona fide girlfriend/boyfriend.
Devil’s advocate. Your friend, MissPeppy, might have her head in the clouds and be making wishful assumptions. If the guy believes they’re still in the “dating” phase, then he’s got every right to be looking around or in crude terms, to be shopping for other goods.
Maybe he is there just to read the message board?
all these comments crack me up. I kind of agree with you guys. hey what’s the harm in looking….just don’t say one thing and do another. (and there is no message board on this site)
although i say there’s a difference between looking at their profiles because these are actual women that he could potentiallly meet, whereas porn, yeah, I wish him luck.
i’m just curious to how it’ll unfold. and hopefully it won’t cause too much heartbreak.