Have you ever dated someone that you knew you’d never want to bring them home to meet your family, but you were so intrigued by them that you kept dating them?
I once dated this guy that I knew I wouldn’t dare bring home to my parents. I think mainly because I knew my parents would judge this guy solely based on what he looked like. He was a decent looking guy, the only thing was, he had his nose pierced (bull nose style). Probably not the best impression to make on my parents.
Luckily the relationship never got serious, so I never had to introduce him to my parents. Although I did mention to him that I couldn’t even imagine going, “Mom, Dad…this is…*ahem*”
I can only imagine my parents saying, “Hi, uhm, do you mind taking that out?”
Side note: I once had a laberet (piercing below the lip). and my mom flipped out. she wouldn’t let me in the house unless i took it out. But I do have my tongue pierced, and she’s more cooler with that because it isn’t visible.
So why would anyone continue to date someone that they knew they wouldn’t or couldn’t bring him/her to meet your own parents? My reasoning behind it is that I saw something more in this guy, that I knew my parents wouldn’t. However, if I had fallen in love with this boy, I would’ve eventually brought him home to meet my parents. But I would’ve warned my parents about the piercing, just so they could mentally prepare themselves. And I could totally see my dad saying something like, so you like being dragged around by that thing? It would’ve been awkward no matter what!
Whether or not you know that you can’t picture yourself introducing the person you’re dating to your family, why do you keep dating that person? Is it because you just want to be with someone? Is it because you’re secretly rebelling against your parents? Or are you scared that they’d judge you because you’re dating that person? Or you just want to step outside the box?
I date the guys I date because they intrigue me. If i’m a little ataken back by the fact that I might have to introduce anyone to my parents, it’s mainly because that’s BIG for me. It’s huge for me to have to bring a guy home, and go, “Mom, Dad this is….” And that scares the beejeezus out of me.
Was there ever a person you couldn’t picture introducing to your parents, or family? But you did it anyway?
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“So why would anyone continue to date someone that they knew they wouldn’t or couldn’t bring him/her to meet your own parents? My reasoning behind it is that I saw something more in this guy, that I knew my parents wouldn’t. However, if I had fallen in love with this boy, I would’ve eventually brought him home to meet my parents.”
I think that’s an exceptionally good rule. Parents really do know better (but don’t tell MY parents I said that, okay?)
I subscribe to the idea that you really shouldn’t be wasting your parents’ time meeting a date that you know isn’t going to last. I mean, if I had my parents meet some of the people I’ve dated…oh lord. I’m glad I spared them. :)
If you can’t picture introducing your date to your family, there’s something wrong there, really. You should be proud to say, hey, this is who I like, I wanna you to like him/her too! Just what I think.
I get what Erin and Adam are saying. However, are we introducing our date/love interest to our folks as a “measuring stick” for continuation or cessation of the relationship?
“So why would anyone continue to date someone that they knew they wouldn’t or couldn’t bring him/her to meet your own parents?” There could be so many reasons for this: socio-economic status; race; religion; sexual preference; disability; genetic trait, etc.
We all KNOW what our parents would accept or not accept. But then, so what? Their approval doesn’t and shouldn’t dictate us whom to love.
If parents have issues or do not accept our love interests, then that’s their problem.
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if i like a guy, my parents opinions do not count much for me. as much as i love and respect my parents, it is my life. i have my lip peirced, and my tounge. my parents accepted it becuse they knew i would keep it no matter what. they were only concerned it might distract from my hands. the same goes for my relationships. if a guy im into has a tatoo or piercing, my parents try to over look that and look for his good qualities. thats just me……