In two days I’ll join you on the march down from Hall Memorial Building down to the Field House. I’ve watched this exodus many times as my peers made this momentous passage amid tears, profound joy and sentiment, and relief. Finally, at last, it’s my - and your - turn.
In light of the events of the last nine days, it’s natural to wonder how it’ll feel walking across that stage where Jane K. Fernandes and I. King Jordan, two prominent figures in the presidential selection controversy, stand. Will I really cherish it as much, looking into their eyes and smiling artificially as they hand over the piece of paper I’ve earned and shake my hand?
But I’ll tell you how I’ll feel. I entered this institution longer ago than I’d like to admit. Like many others, I’ve left, come back, left again, and, yes, I’ve come back again.
I’ve sat on my ass through endless boring classes. I’ve been a brownnosing nerd for some teachers and an apathetic slacker for others. I’ve attended wild parties and paid the dues. I’ve pulled all-nighters cranking out 20-page papers the night before a final exam. I’ve fretted over test and quiz results and breezed through others. Taken classes I didn’t want to, been unable to register for those I wanted. I’ve been involved in student organizations, contributed to campus life in general. I’ve done all these for the last several years.
And so have the hundreds of other students, like you, who are graduating with me this week.
And somehow, though I never intended it, I found a home. I’ve forged friendships both temporary and lasting. I became part of a culture and owned my citizenship in the deaf community more than ever. I’ve been on campus during murder investigations, during 9/11, during the Homecoming fiasco last fall, and now, during this latest crisis. Each time, I’ve seen the people of Gallaudet test their own strength and examine themselves and grow stronger and better every step of the way.
Maybe the current events at Gallaudet have you wondering if graduating this Friday will hold the same feeling of achievement for you. But the truth is, even while we investigate how this University should be led, the whole of Gallaudet is still standing behind you. The staff, faculty, and administration will hold you up as an example of what Gallaudet can be to future students. Your family and friends will still celebrate this milestone in your life with you. The members of the FSSA will be sprinkled throughout the audience members watching you and even sitting among you, and knowing that you are part of the reason they’re fighting for a better University.
So, maybe you’re wondering how you’ll feel when you shake King’s hand. But I know how I’m gonna feel.
How will I feel? By God Almighty, I’m gonna be damn proud of myself.
And you know what? I’m gonna be proud of you too.
Congratulations, graduate.
Allison Kaftan
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Congratulations. You have a whole lifetime ahead to realize all the dreams you are seeking! Best wishes.
Allow me to congratulate you as well! May your next journey in life be just as exciting and rewarding your experience in Gallaudet was.
You know, back when I was young, I had to stand in line just register classes. The papers I had to tread through was 6 feet deep….
Oh…excuse me.
Congrats to the graduating students!
That’s the best way to live the moment. Thank you for sharing.
Nice post - gave me goosebumps now. Nice post. Good luck to you and Chris.
Hey..Can anyone tell me what is AUDISM means?
Belittling of people due to their hearing impairment.
Basically, anyone who’s practices audism thinks that us deaf people are dumb and worth a lot less than any normal hearing person, disregarding the fact to the contrary.
Hearing people are not the only people who can be audists…deaf or hard of hearing people can be audists as well.
I guess it depends who you ask… to some, it seems it’s simply disagreeing with the protest. To Tom Humphries (who coined the phrase, and who now is being called an audist, ironically) I suspect it means something a bit different.
Here’s a link, fwiw.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Audism
I want to offer my aplogy for my thoughless manner to Allison even tho we never meet in person by not saying something worth praise word, but would like to offer my congralation to you. I accidently put my question on wrong blog since it is not related to this topic.
Wish you the best success!!!
YEP, BE DAMN PROUD OF YOURSELF!! You did it! :)
Congrats on your graduation. I have been reading your and your husband’s blog about Gallaudet protest and your argument made a lot of sense!! You both are well educated and mature compared to those of D of D ….they are emotional and aggessive people. Don’t worry. Anyway, I want to congratulate on your graduation!! Hope it will turn out well as normal despite the stupid D of D’s protest.
Congratulate on your Graduation this Friday! Hope it turns out wonderful spirit!
Remember that success is a journey and not a destination. (I have recently discovered the “deafdc.com” site and have been reading about the protest and other related stuff.)
SO long story short, graduation is just one more pit stop in your itinerary. I remember feeling that I would never graduate… I remember going through murder investigations and 9/11 at Gally as well. And I think I was in some of those boring classes with you. However, now seeing things from the other side of the stage, I look back and think… “where has the time gone?” Graduation was not the first step, but it was a step and now I’m further down the path than I thought. I feel that as an Alumna, I can give you this advice…Enjoy it while it lasts, because even though you can go back, enroll for grad school, visit, and remain a part of the community…It’s never the same as when you are getting that first undergrad degree and a world of possibilities awaits.
Enough pontificating already. Best Wishes for your bright and beautiful future!
you defintely have potential to become a future commencement speaker like all of those “Dr.’s” weve gotten to know over the years.
very inspiring. thank you. :)
Congratulations on your graduation. You have earned the right to go up there and get your degree. Do it! I understand how you feel about having to see King and JK, but it’s up to you.